I just heard from Val . . . here's her message:

"my grandmother has a very aggressive case of lymphona and she's not going to make it much longer. They said a matter of days. If they tried chemo, there's a 2 out of 3 chance it could kill her and she'd suffer. If they did chemo and it succeeded, the most it would give her would be a few months, then we'd have to go thru all this again. Could you please post this on the mb. I spent the night with her at the hospital last night...I came home to get some phone numbers and something to eat and I'll be going back. They'll be sending her home with hospice later today."

Massive prayers need to be sent up for this sweet lady to not suffer and for Val and her family to get through this tough time.

Thanks for the update. I am so sorry to hear about Val's grandmother.
Her and her family are in my thoughts and prayers.

I'm so sorry. My thouhgts and prayers are with Val and her family.

I'm so sad. I've known Val for many, MANY years now, and it seems in every email, and almost every post on this Board, she mentions her
Grandmother. Val will need all of us to get her through this.

Valerie , I am so sorry about your grandmother. My grandma helped raise me and when I lost her it was very hard . My prayers are for her to not suffer and for her family to remember all the good times and know she will be forever safe .

Val
My prayers will go out for you and your family at this hard time. Also for your grandmother that she not suffer but feel the love of her family around her.

I'm so sorry Val. My thoughts are with you and your family.

So sorry, Val to hear about your Grandma. Hope and pray she does not suffer too long but know that you are going to miss her so much. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

Lona

Val,I'll keep you and your famliy in my prayers.

Val,
I'm so very sorry to hear this sad news. I will be praying for all of you, and hoping for the best for you. There's a peace in knowing she will not suffer a long time. When we went through this with my stepfather, hospice was there, and they were wonderful.

Val,
I am thinking of you and your grandmother and both of you are in my prayers. I will also keep all of your family in my prayers.
Laura

Well guys, she's out of her suffering. We lost her at around 2:45 this afternoon. The whole family was there, although my mom, sister and the kids were out walking around the hospital floor. A few minutes before she died, we could see her breathing slowing down, and when I felt her, she was starting to feel cool, so I called my mom, since I didn't know exactly where they were, just that they were out in the hall somewhere to let her know...I think one of my aunts got the nurse in there, and she checked her pulse and she said couldn't get a pulse. I saw my mom and Taylor, they were near the nurses desk, so I told my mom the nurse couldn't get a pulse and she went to get her stethoscope. My mom, sister and the kids were all there when the nurse confirmed she was gone. We were all there with her and said our goodbyes. She wanted to be creamated, so that's what we're going to do. Hospice made the arrangements after we chose the funeral home. There's not going to be a service, since the family was all there anyways, and there were only a few people at Church that we knew, and a few of the neighbors. My mom's pastor stopped by around lunchtime this afternoon and he said a prayer, but she was probably only semi-concious at that time. She did know we were there earlier this morning because when we talked to her she would move her head back and forth. My mom had stayed overnight at the hospital and had left to go home and work on Church bulletins, take a shower and get some sleep, after we got there, but when she tried to get some sleep, she couldn't so she headed back to the hospital. My mom, dad and I went out to get some lunch around 12:30/1:00, and we got back probably around 1:30...I was thinking, 'boy, we made it back just in time.' Since our pastor isn't in town this weekend, and my mom's pastor was 40-50 miles away, we had the hospital Chaplin come in...we think he might have been Catholic, and he was Haitian.

Both my aunts are leaving in the morning to head home...my father and I are going to Church, then we have to meet my mom at the funeral home...after that I'm going up to stay with her for a few days.

Valerie,
I am so sorry to hear about your grandmother. Take comfort in that she didn't suffer long and is now at peace. I am sure it was a great comfort to her to know that her family was with her. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Laura

Val - that was so fast. She didn't have time to suffer. I'm so glad you all were with her. THAT is so important. Stay strong and know that we are here for you!

Val, I'm so sorry. It's a blessing that she had her family with her, and she did not suffer. I hope you all find comfort in knowing she is no longer in any pain, and she is home with the Lord.
God Bless You.

I got the time of her death wrong...it was 2:45, so we were back about an hour. My aunt from CA left at 4:30 this morning, and my sister just got here to get my aunt from NJ back to Austin. I was up before 4 this morning...woke up with a coughing spell and just couldn't go back to sleep...although I do think I need to go back and lay down for a little while.

Valerie,I am so very sorry .

This is so sad, my condolences to you Val and your family

Val, my thoughts are with you and your family. I'm sure your grandmother is at rest now.

Val, I am so sorry to hear about your Grandmother. Being Internet friends for a long time, I felt like I knew her. Please know that I'm sending up prayers for you and your family. Take one day at a time and you have your precious memories that nobody can take away from you. Remember those wonderful times, it helps.

Val,So sorry for your lost.Keeping you and your family in my prayers.

Val, so sorry to hear about the death of your Grandma. I so much enjoyed reading about you and her close relationship and how you were always there for her. Know that you will miss her.
Prayers and thoughts are with you.

Lona

Dear Valerie, I'm so sorry to hear your grandma passed away. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Maike

Val, I'm so sorry about your loss. My prayers are also with you and your family. I understand your pain.

Val
So sorry to hear of your grandma's passing. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

Valerie...I have been off the board for awhile and was so sad to come here and read the news about your grandmother. My thoughts and prayers are with you and I hope that you are dealing with things as best as possible. You have a great support system here with lot's of friends that care about you so feel free to come here when you are sad and looking for someone to talk to.

Thanks, Leah. You guys and my list have been a great support system. We picked up the ashes yesterday, cleaned my grandmother's closet and drawers out and they finally came and picked up the oxygen tanks and machine. I'll be going home sometime tomorrow afternoon. The funeral home put up a nice memorial that had more info than the newspaper obit. The funeral home website is http://www.scanioharperfuneralhome.com/sit...ser=helenlodge#
and anyone can go there, leave a message and light a candle.

Val ,sorry you and your family has my prayers. shes not suffering now shes with the Lord.
God Bless
love ya Shirl in PA.

Val, I've been off the boards awhile and just read your news. So sorry to hear about your grandmother. I know you were close, and I know this will be very hard on you, but I'm glad she didn't have to suffer too much. You are all in my thoughts and prayers....

VAL,
SO SORRY TO HERE ABOUT YOUR GRANDMOTHER YOU ARE IN MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS.